Karen Best Wright
The holidays can be a very emotional time for grandparents and grandchildren who are a family unit without the parents. Of the many grandparents I have communicated with, it appears to me the stress depends on many factors. Some grandparents want the parents involved who do not want to be involved. Other grandparents do not want the parents involved who want to be involved. The children can be stuck in the middle. Babies and small children seem less likely to be affected by having Christmas with just their grandparents. As children get older, they have more memories of how things used to be, whether pleasant or painful.
So while the media makes Christmas such a joyous time for everyone, it simply isn't joyous for all families. It can be a time that brings pain in spite of the efforts made to make it a wonderful time to remember. It definitely is different than what many grandparents and children expected to be experiencing. I know this year is not how my granddaughters expected to be celebrating Christmas. My grands with me are teens and as the holidays approach, I see and feel their emotions all over the place.
My wish is that all families, regardless of the design, find ways to make new traditions or bring back old ones to build happy memories that will last a lifetime.
Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to all of you.