Karen Best Wright, B.S., M.A., Health Educator & Wellness Coach
Some like the word “mother,” others like the word, “mom” when it comes to who does what and what it all means. It is all semantics really. Does the word “mother” strike you as formal, cold, distant? Or does it mean glorious and beyond the reach of all other titles? Use whatever word you like; it really makes no difference, but to me the title “Mother” means the ultimate love, all nurturing, and all encompassing. The very essence of “mothering” is eternal. So I will use the word Mother, you use whatever suits you and brings you understanding and enlightenment. But to me becoming a mother is one step up from having the “mom” role.
Many women can fill the “mom role.” Whoever takes care of the children on a daily basis may be filling the role, whether it is the birth mom, foster mom, grandma, aunt, sister, neighbor, or even the dad. But the woman who persistently loves, protects, and teaches by example, one whose heart is always available becomes the true mother. Once you become a mother, you don’t un-become a mother. Mothering is not something that just happens when/if you give birth. Mothering is something you learn.
“Mothering” has taken a bad rap at times. Some may view it as hovering or interfering. That is not mothering. True mothering is creative and nurturing. True mothering is nonjudgmental. True mothering is honorable. Hopefully whoever takes on the “mom role” learns the art of true mothering. Being a mother is a life long journey that never ends.
Let me add. I love being a mother.
Karen Best Wright, Mother