By Karen Best Wright, Author of I LOVE YOU FROM THE EDGES: Lessons from Raising Grandchildren
We've had quite the discussion in our Facebook support group for grandparents raising grandchildren and what they can or cannot do for Christmas for the grandchildren they are not raising. Most grandparents in this situation, give more gifts to the children they are raising because the children rely on them like their other grandchildren rely on their own parents. Once in a while I hear about a disgruntled parent who is raising her own child who thinks the grandparents should buy for all equally. This doesn't make any sense to most of us. Most grandparents don't forget their other grandchildren, but they certainly can't treat all equally. Even if they tried, it would never be equal. When the other grandchildren have their own parents and other grandparents showering them with gifts, it seems to most of us that is is completely unreasonable to expect the caregiving grandparent to even attempt such an endeavor. So should you ever find yourself in this situation, just know that most grandparents who are parenting some of their grandchildren, stick to the more traditional role of gift giving to the other grandchildren.
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