By Karen Best Wright, B.S., M.A., Health & Wellness Specialist
I watched a TV movie the other night that left me thinking. It had nothing to do with raising grandchildren, but it gave me food for thought about a mistake that is easy for a parent or grandparent to make when they are in a conflicting situation. In the movie there was a divorced couple with a teenage daughter. The mother was constantly complaining about the father and how he had never been there for them, etc, etc. etc. You know the story. When watching a movie, it was easy to see the harm the mother was doing to her daughter with constantly complaining about the father.
Sometimes grandparents can fall into this same trap when they are frustrated with the children's parents, whether the parents are always "in the way" or are simply "out of the way" too much. It is really important to be careful with what one says in front of the children or within ear shot. Children have amazingly good hearing when they want to.
So I guess my point is to be careful when we need to vent, who we vent to, and where (never to or around the children). Children should not have to choose who deserves their loyalty, and hearing negative about someone they love only causes more conflict for them. I'll get off my soap box now.
A Grandmother in Love with her Grandchildren